I posted a meagre 15 times in 2007. That’s pretty amazing because I’m not a very “silent” sort of person.
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Not a good mood after missing Sunday’s 2 o’clock service and Bible Study last night. :(
About Jon
- Jon Lai
- Lion City, Gibraltar
- I would like to think of myself not just as an architect or a designer. Hell no, i don't particularly desire to be "arty farty". Instead, I'm just doing my job on earth, taking care of mankind and minding other people's business. There is nothing more rewarding than making someone smile. The simple things of life amuse me. Teddy bears make me happy. I don't stare at women. Yet I complicate life. Welcome to my dynasty.
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remind me that if I ever want to hear or read about something disturbing, to come to this specific post, because insofar, this takes the cake of the most disturbing thing I have ever imagined you do.
The insult indeed and the insecurity of women.
hmm... she offered "them" to me. And there's no way I'm refusing the opportunity. Oh no, did that come out all wrong? hahahaha
Oh well for what its worth.. erm silicon is a very good semiconductor?.. and very heat resistant? haha.. man..
Its a pitty silicon isnt scarse now.. maybe women could trade in their implants in the future, when it is scarse and make big profit!
I dont know which is worse- having gold teeth or putting silicon implants- both ways ur wasting precious earth elements.. :P
what idle banter hahaa..
Seems to me that you are very proud of this encounter...but you shouldnt at all in my opinion.
I hope i dont sound too impolite. I know that this is your blog, you have all the right to write anything at your pleasure, but before anything, please consider how it would affect others, especially those who are still young in faith.
I am still your friend/sister in Christ despite anything.
I don't remember being this angry, Jon. I was greatly disturbed by your post and I feel strongly that I have to write this.
Based on your post and your response, you do not seem to think that there's anything wrong with what you did and what you wrote, since this girl 'offered them' to you.
Let me just say this as directly as possible: I do NOT think that it is right for you to touch your friend's breasts, whether or not you were 'offered' to do so, whether in public or in private.
You might think that you are 'free' to do so, but do you know that your action can actually cause your brothers and sisters in Christ to stumble? You dared to do this in public, and showed no shame in doing so. Imagine if your BS members saw what you did (or anyone else for that matter). Would your actions tell them that it is okay to go around touching and feeling other people's breasts, if you are being offered to do so? Do you have any idea what disgust your post invoked?
I was a little hesitant to write this because when I look at my own life, I see much flaws - I see the numerous times I have sinned in ways that are despicable and caused others to stumble. And I am full of shame. Dare I cast the first stone? Should I first take the plank out of my eye before taking the speck out of my brother’s eye? Though I myself am such a wretched sinner, I am convicted at this point that I should speak up and condemn this thing that you did, because it clearly dishonours God and causes others to stumble.
I apologize if I've not put this in a tactful way. I prayed that I would do this out of love for a brother, rather than letting this be an outlet for my anger. Please, I urge you to consider carefully the things that you do and their consequences, as I pray that God would help me to do so as well.
Come, let us live lives that bring honour and glory to God, let us be good witnesses for Him, point others to Him, instead of causing them to stumble. I know that left on our own, we are weak and easily tempted to sin. Let us then depend on Him, who is able to keep us from falling, to help us live out the lives that the Cross requires us to.
"Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen."
Wow… I’m sensing a whole lot of angst down here.
Maybe I’ll begin to clear the air first. Blogs are written with a certain “entertainment” value, so to believe everything that’s written is dangerous.
Regarding the incident, I’m not quite sure how much you can read into it. It’s probably offensive to some but I never endorsed or quite hinted that I enjoyed it for that matter. It’s just something that happened in passing and it’ll remain that way. Nevertheless, I sense the word “rebuke” strongly. In an academic sense, what provokes reaction is always desirable. Spiritually, less so. I apologise if I appear to take such a blasé approach to this. As you can probably tell, I didn’t express myself too clearly in the second post as I was in a hurry. Therefore, I’ve decided to delete the post but leave the comments as a lesson to myself.
Through this all, I realised that I’m very much flawed myself and all your comments have flouted my disgustingly impregnable ego. But I also know that I’m greatly loved by you all and most of all by God – whom I plead forgiveness.
Sheik: I love you very much and you know that. I won’t defend myself because I’m in wrong. But I do want you to know that your opinion matters so thank you. Whether impolite or not, a direct comment is better than an inferring one.
Yoke Ling: I’m sorry this has disturbed you so. I guess its damage limitation from here on isn’t? Thank you for your sharing. I appreciate it. I know that this is an area of my life which I’m sorely lacking in, and which I very often fall into temptation. I’ve often held it back from God for very selfish, personally indulgent reasons. Mostly I’m too proud to admit, but I’m honestly humbled and I think it’s the right time to say that. In a sense, I’m glad I wrote it down and provoke rebuke, if not I pretty much wouldn’t be bothered. The other area is to do with the tongue and the ability to control it, which I find very hard as well.
Thank you also for praying in earnest. I don’t deserve it so it’s hard to express in words my gratitude. I actually do have a lot more to say but I its really difficult to articulate my thoughts now.
Lai, I think YokeLing and SheikYan have said what was necessary, therefore don't worry you won't be hearing about that issue from me. I however feel I should say/type something to you......as one of your oldest and loyal friends.
I know our friendship has deteriorated from our "deeper" conversations back in Trinity, to now merely comparing soccer stats and match scores. We seem to be "floating" around each others' lives now, knowing that we're old friends but not openly achknowledging it (I know I am guilty of doing so.)
Hence I have decided to step out of the shadows to say that the friend you once knew is still here, whether you like it or not.
If you need someone to talk to and listen to you, I'm still here.
If you feel no one is truly around to support you, I'm still here.
I have always considered you one of my closest friends, even though I never made my presence felt. But guess I'm doing that now.
I am not a regular visitor to your blog, so I won't/can't comment on what goes on here.
I, however am willing to listen to your thoughts and feelings, and I promise to be there for you this time...if you need me of course ;)
psychvort: yes bro, in some sense, we're so close that we no longer catch up anymore which is a really strange thing to say isn't?
Thank you for your encouragement and support and I regret not trying very hard myself. I'd always tell myself its geographical location, inconvenience of matching schedules and so on but they're just excuses. :( Yes, a catch up is definitely on the cards. This message really caught me by surprise.
You know it amazes/scares me how far reaching words can be (the original post was VERY VERY short) and how public this forum has become. eek!
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