Recently, I’ve begun to be aware of the number of SERIOUS relationships among my close friends/contemporaries. Some have tied the knot, some have registered their marriage, some live together, some do everything together and some even have kids. Mostly, they have changed. No longer spunky and energetic, but mundane and burdened. And I ask myself, why do they bring this upon themselves? The yoke of having to support another human being is a phenomenal responsibility mind you! I suppose it’s because of LOVE. Yes, LOVE, the clichéd, 4-lettered, ill-defined malaise. They say it breaks some and makes some. I say it breaks everyone.
Many have simply said “oh you’re just jealous” or “grow up for heaven’s sake” and so on. Deep down, I know that can’t be true. Because remaining single is a choice I made. It’s a personal preference because studying right now, is the first priority. Serving God is part of parcel of my life anyway.
I wonder about kids, 14-15 years old in a “serious” relationship. I dismiss it as puppy love. But hey, 21 isn’t much older than 15 and lots of 21 year olds, and I mean the sane (non-shotgun) sort, are all tying the knot. Was it not fashionable for our grandparents to get married at 18-22 - the most “marketable” age? It seems that cycle is repeating itself. What are the consequences? Increased divorce occurrences? Overpopulation? A further strain on the earth’s resources? I’m not sure.
So I ask myself: Am I ready for such a commitment? Am I ready to find a partner? Guess what? The answer is yes. BUT only if she fits into my plans. I know it sounds cruel and manipulative but let’s face it, I wouldn’t give up a H1 just to cook for my girlfriend unless she’s got exams. It just doesn’t make sense. I wouldn’t save up money to buy her a car for example. At least not NOW! Maybe I’m just being me, cavalier and arrogant. Some say no, I’m just being childish. Really? Trust me, I’m not as stupid as I look. I play my cards well and I’ve more experience than many others. Just because you have a boyfriend/girlfriend now, doesn’t mean you will have one the next day. Life changes like the patterns in a kaleidoscope. Each day is beautiful yet different, but you never know what pattern you’ll get.
For those of you in relationships, treasure them, don’t be complacent. Work daily on them, but never forsake your friends or your family. Because you think you know everything about your partner. But truth be told, sometimes even the one closest to you is nothing but a player in life’s masquerade.
As for myself, I’ve been through enough to know that being in a relationship has its ups and down. One day, it’s the best feeling in the world, the next day, it’s the worst. I’ll rather not have that thank you very much. Life’s security and predictability mean more to me.
BUT
Isn’t this just another day? Another of Jon’s famous life’s theories? Because tomorrow, I just might meet the angel of my life, and all rational will fly out of the window. Not to mention, this post would be history wouldn’t?
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:P I guess everything comes in the right time.. going full out in search of it..(like those sappy korean movies)nor so firmly locking urself off would help! take a chill pill buddy! when the right one comes.. you'll know.. its like chemistry.. under the right environment, the right timing.. u get reactions :) hope u meet ur angel soon... u need it :) its something good for u to have..
well spoken with very good, graphic language too... haha dude, you're a science freak, so i hope you're angel is a girl.. not a product of a chemical reaction :) thanks anyway, i'm not so sure ONE angel is good, i prefer many, like many many manyyyyyy.. LOL :D
are u talking abt me?????????
You've made valid points in your presentation and I'm really inclined to agree with what you say, especially about being single. Right now, that is what is keeping me single and not actively seeking a relationship..
Im not trying to advocate monkhood or what be it, but rather taking time and waiting for the Lord to show me the right one. That way, if it is willed, I can truly give myself to the other half! :P
Yeah well.. I don't mean to hit out at the couples. No no, by all means if you feel settled, GO for it! It's just my opinion that sometimes emotional burden can be a hindrance to what you want to accomplish whilst still young. If you can't take care of yourself, you shouldn't be caring abt someone else (or attempting to).
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