It’s been an action-packed week. Too eventful I’m tempted to say. Meeting friends returning from overseas, meeting clients, attending social parties and the list goes on. Some highlights though.
Over coffee, Kim and I ponder over 2 questions. Obviously, I’m only presenting the male part of the equation. There is a female part too. Maybe I will post it one day. It’s remarkable. 4 questions 4 hours worth of Starbucks. Oh well… like dear Gill says, we are creatures of relationships since our God first loved us.
Each question will be limited to 5 points (to keep your attention)
What do you look for in a partner?
1. She has to fear God. Be a Christian simply put. I’ve been in a relationship where the girl isn’t Christian. And trust me, it doesn’t work out. It’s a personal stigma I have of course. “Ye shall not be unequally yoked.”
2. Attractive. She doesn’t (and probably can’t and won’t) have to be Mischa Barton, but I would be lying if I said I don’t like pretty girls. Above average does it for me. Better put, hot enough to screw when the time comes.
3. Be able to carry herself well. It’s all in the way she looks at you, smiles at you, flicks her hair etc. The small, little movements that women think men don’t notice. Well, this man does.
4. Communication is key. How many times have you heard that? It’s true. A beautiful woman is great to look at, but if there’s nothing substantial up there after 15 minutes into a conversation, that’s it.
I find this frustratingly exigent. I don’t ask for much, just an engaging individual I can talk with. But apparently, there aren’t many around.
5. Humility is important. Fine, I do agree the lady has an upper hand at this age, nonetheless, being a proud twat won’t get you anywhere. Avoid making ostentatious, grandiose statements if you can’t keep to them.
Last week, in a bar, I spoke to a girl. 18 years old, junior college student. I assume highest qualification level O Levels. Now, I don’t condescend nor jump to conclusions. While I disclose that I prefer mature, older women, it is after all pretty natural to get someone younger. Haha, that came out really shoddily, I apologise.
*Jon approaches her. NOTE, he doesn’t have the first word.
Girl: I only date Caucasians.
Jon: Oh aight, I’m cool with that.
Girl: So I’m not dating you.
Jon: That’s fine. Let me get you a drink.
Girl: No thanks.
*Gets a drink
Jon: Too late (plus wink). Haha
Girl: Oh wow thanks!
Jon: Tell me, what’s with Caucasian men?
Girl: Blah Blah Blah. They’re more sensitive, passionate, knowledgeable etc etc.
Jon: So how about Asian men? No chance of charming you?
Girl: Not really. They’re boring.
Jon: (Eyebrow lift) Oh? Be careful what you say. Anyway, nice talking to you. I’ll see you outside the bar at midnight. We’ll go have coffee. Don’t be late.
Girl: ….
Okay, here’s the intriguing part. wJ will bear witness to this. At midnight, I leave the bar. Of course, I don’t expect her to be there. Sometimes, you throw caution to the wind. To be honest, if she’s there, so be it, if not, I’m not going inside to remind her or anything. I couldn’t care less. But there she is, waiting outside.
Girl: (Mock annoyance I believe) I’ve been waiting outside.
Jon: Oh. I’m 2 minutes late. Sorry. I thought you don’t do Asian guys.
Girl: Yeah, that’s just a general rule.
Jon: Tsk tsk… I told you, watch what you say.
So I bring her to Coffee Club for a quick meal and a coffee. And the amazing thing is, if I were to make any sort of move that night, I don’t think I would be rejected. Of course I didn’t, I was merely out to prove her wrong. Go date your Caucasians I don’t care, but don’t say “I ONLY date Caucasians”. One fine day, you WILL be proven wrong.
Another misconception about Caucasian men, they are always more sensitive, charming etc. You know, maybe that’s true. For that I respect them. But I have Caucasian friends, some have abso-bloody-lutely NO charm whatsoever. Some of the alluring ones date Asian girls and dump them for fun. After sex of course. It’s quite cool to screw an Asian and vice versa is it not? My dear ladies, open your eyes.
To be continued, men, leave your feedback to the following question if you please:
Many say that Singaporean women are hard to please. Do you think our women are becoming too independent they’re becoming more domineering than men? And should they learn to be more docile?
About Jon
- Jon Lai
- Lion City, Gibraltar
- I would like to think of myself not just as an architect or a designer. Hell no, i don't particularly desire to be "arty farty". Instead, I'm just doing my job on earth, taking care of mankind and minding other people's business. There is nothing more rewarding than making someone smile. The simple things of life amuse me. Teddy bears make me happy. I don't stare at women. Yet I complicate life. Welcome to my dynasty.
4 comments:
Is the whole 'SPG' syndrome still alive and kicking in Spore? It was such a big thing a few years back.
It really really irks me to see how some Asian ladies have the whole mindset that Caucasian/Anglo-Saxon men are 'better' than our Asian blokes. Those men get put on a pedestal, it's 'cool' to be seen with 'ang-mohs' etc.
Maybe if we give some Asian guys a chance, we'd unearth a rare gem!
I've tried both Caucasian and Asian Men. It's hard to say who's better. Caucasians are definitely charming. Some at least. But I'd feel that their more out for a fling than anything. They know the power they wield over us Asians and take advantage of it to their credit.
Asian blokes are definitely equally funny to be with. Local jokes Caucasians cannot understand. And put it this way, would you like to put on a front contrary to our culture your whole life? Occasionally, there's the gentleman or two which stands out from the crowd. Keep them in sight ;-)
yes i do agree with the statement that women (certain) are difficult to pleased. i believe that man and woman should be treated equally however some women are just taking advantage of the situation. sigh. dun want to comment much but well..
well well well... thanks all for your views.
gill: oooh yeah. i've abso nothing against caucasian men but they are overrated especially in the SPG context. I dunno, why doens't this syndrome work vice versa? Do you hear asian men saying they would only date caucasian women? haha
gina: i'm asian.
Nah i'm just kidding. But similar to what i said above. the asian gentleman isn't a bad option either is he?
sam: wait for part 2 :)
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