On younger men and older women 2.

On younger men and older women 2.

Tuesday 2330hrs Spizza@Balmoral Plaza

I admit I was slightly ruthless in my blogging pursuits. Poor Tin and Cherry had to endure rounds of interrogation, with several questions leaving them tomato salsa-faced. Haha. I’m really sorry. Just for interest sake, the waiter was peering at Tin’s boobs at every opportunity. (Check em out yourself in the picture) What a wanker! You know, there is nothing wrong checking boobs out since we’re male anyway, but if you must, you should at least try to do it discreetly. I’m weird though. I’m not fond of boobs. I’d rather hands, eyes and brains. *shrug* we’re all wired differently. God is fair I suppose.

A bit of background about these 2 women. (Btw, don’t they look just gorgeous? Heh) Both are commerce graduates. We were from the same high school back in Melbourne. I respect them deeply and would gladly confide/give advice if needed, which was the case, the giving advice part. The irony is that, they’re both older than me. I think Cherry is 23 and Tin is 24.

Anyway, here goes:

Jon: What do you think of older women and younger men?
Tin: (sweet smile) that’s fine.
Jon: 3 years age gap?
Tin: Yeah that’s good.
Jon: 5 years?
Tin: (looks embarrassed) Er… where exactly are we heading?
Jon: Nowhere, I’m not in love with you. Just answer the question.
Tin: (doesn’t seem to look very relieved) 5 years is okay I guess.
Jon: 10 years?
Tin: NOOO! You start to wonder where is the love? Usually women who are out with men so young are after something. It could be they’re lonely and desperately in need of company. But it will not last.
Jon: Hmmm… what if somebody who was 15 asked you out? Would you say yes?
Tin: (sighs) No Jon, no.
Jon: Alright, how about 20 years age gap than?
Tin: (looses it) NOO!!!!

I can sense she’s ready to stuff her middle finger into my eye.

Jon: (quickly adding) What if I tell you I went out with a woman 40 years old?
Tin: What?! You bastard! But you know what, you’re capable of anything I guess.
Jon: Erm… she was married with 2 kids?
Tin: (turning really red) Look this is a really bad topic. I’m here to catch up with you not to embarrass myself.
Jon: Hahahaha…

Alright I stopped here. If I continued anymore, she might just walk out on me and that wouldn’t be nice at all. Tin doesn’t have a very good temper (like most girls). I do miss her anyway. So I smile and ask for the menu and we talk about other things under the sun. Cherry hasn’t arrived yet at this point. She’s still stuck in some jam somewhere. We bask in each other’s company and I learn her new love is an architect. Mmmm…

Cherry comes in all her womanly grace and poise. She’s very well dressed. But then again, I’ve not seen her ever dress shabbily before. I like that. Glowing with healthful ardour, she launches enthusiastically into the pros of gyming and how releasing endorphins makes one feel good. I respond by saying that self-injury is the solution since pain also releases endorphins of some sort. I suggest behaving like a Byzantine monk. Tin just wants to eat chocolate to release them.

But I get my way and ask Cherry about older women and younger men. And you will realize that she is very much more diplomatic than Tin, though one never will know till put to the test.

Jon: You have eluded my question 3 times. For the fourth time, what do you think of older women and younger men?
Cherry: It’s okay. Very common as well.
Jon: 3 years?
Cherry: (smiles) that’s good.
Jon: 5?
Cherry: That’s okay I guess.
Jon: 10?
Cherry: It really depends on maturity level I guess.

At this point, I’m very impressed. She has neither guffawed nor blushed and is being totally serious. Tin, on the other hand, has her eyes firmly rolled. I pray those beautiful eyes don’t get stuck there. The wind might change (quote Enid Blyton)

Jon: 20 years?
Cherry: That’s a bit bad I think. You wonder what the woman wants from the man and the converse is applicable too. If a man is twice the age of a woman, chances are that he’s not out for something serious either. Besides, I would get sick of him after a while. The charm only lasts so long.
Jon: True. What I said I had a relationship with a 40 year old chick?
Cherry: (tries hard not to be surprised) Oh well done than.
Jon: (smiling ruefully) It’s true.

Cherry is slightly stunned but she has convinced me sufficiently. I believe she isn’t quite as dogmatic as the average person. Not everyone freaks out at the idea, but the acceptable range seems to 1-3 years age gap. Anything more and things could become messy. I add that this isn’t necessarily so since I was in a committed relationship with a woman 6 years my senior for 1/1/2 years. But then again, different people react differently.

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I decide not to get Kimberly involved in this one. She’s what I would call one of the ‘holy’ gang of friends I have. It might not bode too well on my already tarnished reputation.

Elder sister just ended things with her man (or ex-man for that matter). She messages me “Ju, I’m going for a break up date at 7, can I meet you after that?” Obviously, she needs emotional guidance and I have had to give counsel on more than one occasion. She looks up to me regarding relationship happenings. God knows why. I may be experienced but even though I love my women, I’m a bastard and a defiled creature. Nevertheless, as her brother, I full well intend to fight for her and be there for her at all times.